GROOMED – Review by Susan Wloszczyna

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As I watched the cathartic and revealing documentary Groomed, I couldn’t help but think about HBO’s Allen v. Farrow that supported Dylan’s childhood accusations that her adopted father, filmmaker Woody Allen, molested her as a child.

Director Gwen van de Pass, who lives in San Francisco as an adult, turns the tables on that scenario by being able take control of the narrative of own sexual abuse story. As a pre-teen in Holland in the late-‘90s, she was part of a swim team whose male assistant instructor singled her out for special attention. She continues to be haunted by how her sexual abuser systematically made her feel special while taking physical liberties with an under-aged child. Van de Pas uses the medium of film to perform a kind of exorcism for her and others so they can move on with their lives.

The title of her doc refers to the way that predators groom their targets by befriending them, earning their trust and coercing them into being sexually abused. She decides to return to her childhood home in order to confront her past while also reaching out to other victims, such as a man who was molested by a priest and a young woman whose stepfather not only had sex with her but also paid for a late-term abortion when she was 15. She also confronts a repentant offender who served time for his actions as he confirms the pattern that these criminals use to make their victims feel wanted and loved.

As one expert says, “For a child, it’s like going into a gunfight with a toothpick.”

For most of her life, Van de Pas didn’t share her traumatic experiences and didn’t think about going to the authorities and revealing his crimes. But after reliving the past in her dreams as an adult, she revisits a trove of fawning letters at her parent’s house that the attacker sent with more mature eyes. She bravely decides to do the right thing and report him to the authorities. While her personal story on screen ends on a rather sunny note of closure, the statistics that show up at the end of doc reveal that justice for victims rarely occurs.

EDITOR’S NOTE:Groomed is AWFJ’s Movie of the Week for March 26, 2021

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Susan Wloszczyna

In her nearly 30 years at USA Today, Susan Wloszczyna interviewed everyone from Vincent Price and Shirley Temple to Julia Roberts and Will Smith. Her coverage specialties include animation, musicals, comedies and any film starring Hayley Mills, Sandy Dennis or hobbits. Her crowning career achievements so far, besides having Terence Stamp place his bare feet in her lap during an interview for The Limey, is convincing the paper to send her to New Zealand twice for set visits, once for The Return of the King and the other for The Chronicles of Narnia and King Kong, and getting to be a zombie extra and interview George Romero in makeup on the set for Land of the Dead. Though not impressive enough for Pulitzer consideration, she also can be blamed for coining the moniker "Frat Pack," often used to describe the comedy clique that includes Ben Stiller, Vince Vaughn and Will Ferrell. Her positions have included Life section copy desk chief for four years and a film reviewer for 12 years. She is currently a contributor for the online awards site Gold Derby and is an Oscar expert for Previously, she has been a freelance film reporter and critic, contributing regularly to, MPAA’s The Credits, the Washington Post, AARP The Magazine online and Indiewire as well as being a book reviewer for The Buffalo News. She previously worked as a feature editor at the Niagara Gazette in Niagara Falls, N.Y. A Buffalo native, she earned her bachelor's degree in English at Canisius College and a master's degree in journalism from Syracuse University.