MOVIE OF THE WEEK September 29, 2023: SHE CAME TO ME

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If the idea of Marisa Tomei as a romance-addicted tugboat captain sounds like your cup of tea, then grab the popcorn and settle in for Rebecca Miller’s She Came to Me, a quirky, well-acted dramedy about the intersecting lives of two families of New Yorkers and the people in their orbit. By turns heartfelt and slightly absurdist, it’s ultimately the kind of cinematic escape from the real world that we all sometimes need.

Tomei plays Katrina, a rough-on-the-outside, tender-on-the-inside woman who connects with talented-but-tortured opera composer Steven (Peter Dinklage) while he’s trying to work through his anxiety-driven creative block. Their encounter does the job…but it also sends him into guilt spirals, since he’s married to Patricia (Anne Hathaway), a germaphobic aesthetic who first met Steven when she was his therapist. (He still calls her “Doc” affectionately, which speaks volumes about their dynamic.)

Meanwhile, Patricia’s teenage son from her previous relationship, Julian (Evan Ellison), is in love with Tereza (Harlow Jane), whose domestic worker mom (Joanna Kulig) and court recorder/Civil War reenactor stepdad (Brian d’Arcy James) aren’t thrilled about the idea of Tereza being in a serious relationship. As the characters’ storylines converge — and their eccentricities twist the plot in sometimes-unexpected directions — She Came to Me explores the nature of love, compatibility, vocation, and fulfillment.

And thanks to Miller’s practiced direction, it all looks very good. The New York settings, both interior and exterior, feel authentic; the production design is thoughtful and detailed (you may find yourself wishing for a behind-the-scenes featurette offering a tour of Katrina’s chaotically cozy boat); and the wardrobe choices are well matched to their characters. Top it all off with a talented cast of actors who seem to be enjoying themselves tremendously, and you have an awfully appealing way to spend a couple of hours. — Betsy Bozdech

Team #MOTW’s comments:

Nell Minow: Some movies have a heightened tone. Some have characters that feel authentically complex. Some have storylines that are unexpected combinations of humor, drama, and heart. Writer/director Rebecca Millewr somehow manages the almost impossible challenge of combining all three in She Came to Me, a beautifully performed and directed story that has great charm and unexpected wisdom.

Leslie Combemale She Came to Me isn’t likely to fit in the neat boxes critics prefer and I bet they’ll considered too hipster to be real, but the audacious, bizarre, inconceivable dramedy will prove to be a favorite to quirky indie fans. There’s care and consideration in every aspect of the production, from the awards-heavy cast, to the careful color stories in the production design, to the embarrassment of riches offered up in the score and music. Writer/director Rebecca Miller gives her characters real issues, often to the point of mental illness, and they are issues that build interactions and relationships that offer less clearcut hero/villain scenarios, thereby making them worlds more interesting. She collaborated with her cast in developing their roles, and it shows in the commitment the performers give to their performances. The result is a sort of screwball comedy meets magical realism, with a lot of heart thrown in. Read full review.

Loren King Writer and filmmaker Rebecca Miller’s first film since the too-little-seen Maggie’s Plan starring Greta Gerwig, Julianne Moore and Ethan Hawke in 2015, She Came to Me is a charming fairy tale about finding romance in a magical New York. In her films and works of literature, Miller has always delivered a strong personal voice and characters, particularly women, that are individual, flawed and fully human. Read full review.

Sherin Nicole Shot with operatic storytelling and folkloric styling, She Came to Me magnifies atypical acts of romantic & familial love: the unexpected collision of hearts, star-crossed firsts, and divine devotion are among them. These themes are clear but there are other ingredients that concern me: antagonists left unchecked, mental illness magically healed by codependency, and irresponsible choices seen through a rosy lens. These could be a byproduct of whimsy, but when taken together we may be watching 3-out-of-4 well-defined and individual women serve themselves up to nourish the males. Again, it depends on your tastes—She Came to Me is a sweet bite in many ways, but you might end up asking yourself: What’s in this? Read full review.

Nikki Fowler: She Came to Me is a beautiful story on love and the human spirit and how in all of life’s imperfections and how at times humanity can sometimes fail one other time and time again, there is always that ribbon of pure kindness that finds its way into the hearts of those that seem hopelessly lost and it finds a way to heal, protect and save us from ourselves. Peter Dinklage is a phenomenal actor with complete range to bring this lost opera composer (Stephen) to life in his failing marriage to Patricia played by Anne Hathaway, who killed it by the way in the series ‘We Crashed’ playing a flighty spiritual one part of an investor team couple gone rouge, brings this composers therapist wife’s search for something more to the forefront with emotion and sometimes chaos. Marisa Tomei shines as the hopeless compulsive romantic that turns the couples world upside down as they rethink what the meaning of their life really is. With stellar writing and direction, She Came to Me is endearing and shows that through upheaval and tragedy all you really need is a little bit of love to find your way.

Jennifer Merin She Came to Me is a thoroughly breezy and delightfully quirky romdramcomedy, written and directed by Rebecca Miller and starring Peter Dinklage, Marisa Tomei and Anne Hathaway. The story is a wholesomely hearty, surprisingly silly and highly improbably New York fantasy. The characters are gorgeously absurd and irresistibly appealing, The performances are spot on. There’s even a charming dog. Even if the film were not as well-crated as it is, this effective escape from stress arrives just when most of us need relief.

Sandie Angulo Chen: Writer-director Rebecca Miller’s film She Came to Me is a relationship dramedy that explores art, race, class, and love among two interconnected families in New York City. Starring an A-list cast that includes Peter Dinklage, Marisa Tomei, and Anne Hathaway, the movie is difficult to categorize as a romantic comedy, but it does include two central romantic plot lines as well as tributes to motherly and spiritual love and devotion. Miller coaxes nuanced performances from the leading and supporting actors, and although there are darker themes about mental illness and racism threaded into the script, it’s ultimately a hopeful film about the transformative power of various kinds of love.

Pam Grady: An opera composer’s (Peter Dinklage) one-night stand with an opera loving, romance obsessed, stalkerish tugboat captain (Marisa Tomei) has big ramifications for his marriage to his high-strung, clean freak, nun-obsessed psychiatrist wife (Anne Hathaway). Oh, and the shrink used to be her husband’s doctor. Boundary stomping is the seeming hobby for every adult in Rebecca Miller’s Brooklyn-set tall tale, a habit of overstepping that eventually leads to big trouble for the couple’s 18-year-old son (Evan Ellison) and his 16-year-old girlfriend (Harlow Jane). With the exception of a few scenes between the two kids, there is not a frame of this twee movie that rings remotely like reality and as a fantasy it falls short. With its thoroughbred cast, it’s diverting enough but so wispy that it barely registers.

Liz Whittemore In writer/director Rebecca Miller’s She Came to Me, a chance romantic encounter sparks inspiration and spirals the lives of a group of people into chaos. An opera composer, a therapist, a cleaning woman, a stenographer, a tug boat captain, and a high school couple become entangled in the trappings of love. Evan Ellison, Joanna Kulig, Brian D’Arcy James, and Harlow Olivia Calliope Jane give us emotional depth at every turn. Marisa Tomei plays Katrina, a lonely tug boat captain hopelessly in love with love. She’s quirky, genuine, totally dazzling. Anne Hathaway’s type A perfectionist persona is delicious. Her results-oriented mindset and germaphobia are her coping mechanisms. With a hyper-positive facade and schedule-minded routine, she hides childhood trauma. It is a career-best performance for Hathaway. Peter Dinklage plays Stephen as an overtly neurotic, deeply depressed, and wholly indecisive creative. Once again, Dinklage’s ability to put the viewer at ease and simultaneously captivate is unsurpassed. Bryce Dessner’s score, book, and lyrics are whimsical, mischievous, and bold, mirroring Stephen’s eccentricity and real-life inspirations. The film is a collection of complex characters feeding off the human experience. The various relationship dynamics perfectly capture age and stage with a touch of the absurd. Where art imitates life, you’ll be enamored with She Came to Me

Cate Marquis Crazy, wild and delightful describe SHE CAME TO ME, a quirky comedy/romance/drama about a New York-based composer of operas (Peter Dinklage) who struggling with his latest work and his own case of nerves, despite the encouragement by patient therapist wife (Ann Hathaway), until one day when has a strange encounter with a tugboat captain (Marisa Tomei) who has an obsession with romance. There is more – much more – to writer/director Rebecca Miller’s SHE CAME TO ME but saying more risks spoiling this clever, hilarious, creative and finally heartwarming story. But, trust me, these three wonderful actors (and their supporting cast), make magic, laughter, and more from this wildest yarn that somehow makes perfect sense in the end.

FILM DETAILS:

Title: She Came to Me

Director: Rebecca Miller

Release Date: October 6, 2023

Running Time: 102 minutes

Language: English

Screenwriter: Rebecca Miller

Distribution Company: Vertical Entertainment

AWFJ Movie of the Week Panel Members: Sandie Angulo Chen, Betsy Bozdech, Jamie Broadnax, Leslie Combemale, Nikki Fowler, Pam Grady, Loren King, Cate Marquis, Jennifer Merin, Nell Minow, Sherin Nicole, Liz Whittemore

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Jennifer Merin

Jennifer Merin is the Film Critic for Womens eNews and contributes the CINEMA CITIZEN blog for and is managing editor for AWFJ.org, the online magazine of the Alliance of Women Film Journalists, of which she is President. She has served as a regular critic and film-related interviewer for The New York Press and About.com. She has written about entertainment for USA Today, The L.A. Times, US Magazine, Ms. Magazine, Endless Vacation Magazine, NY Daily News, New York Post, SoHo News and other publications. After receiving her MFA from Tisch School of the Arts (Grad Acting), Jennifer performed at the O'Neill Theater Center's Playwrights Conference, Long Wharf Theater, American Place Theatre and LaMamma, where she worked with renown Japanese director, Shuji Terayama. She subsequently joined Terayama's theater company in Tokyo, where she also acted in films. Her journalism career began when she was asked to write about Terayama for The Drama Review. She became a regular contributor to the Christian Science Monitor after writing an article about Marketta Kimbrell's Theater For The Forgotten, with which she was performing at the time. She was an O'Neill Theater Center National Critics' Institute Fellow, and then became the institute's Coordinator. While teaching at the Universities of Wisconsin and Rhode Island, she wrote "A Directory of Festivals of Theater, Dance and Folklore Around the World," published by the International Theater Institute. Denmark's Odin Teatret's director, Eugenio Barba, wrote his manifesto in the form of a letter to "Dear Jennifer Merin," which has been published around the world, in languages as diverse as Farsi and Romanian. Jennifer's culturally-oriented travel column began in the LA Times in 1984, then moved to The Associated Press, LA Times Syndicate, Tribune Media, Creators Syndicate and Arcamax Publishing. She's been news writer/editor for ABC Radio Networks, on-air reporter for NBC, CBS Radio and for Westwood One's America In the Morning. She is a member of the Critics Choice Association in the Film, Documentary and TV branches and a voting member of the Black Reel Awards. For her AWFJ archive, type "Jennifer Merin" in the Search Box (upper right corner of screen).